Many of us might be feeling inadequate this Ramadan. Long hours of fasting with short nights makes it hard for those of us who are occupied i.e. those of us working full time, or those of us who are unable to fast, “FEEL” Ramadan. We can’t do the extra worship we used to and even when we get in our extra Qur’an or pray in the mosque we can’t even concentrate, so we end up just feeling lame.
But what we really need is a perspective shift.
We need to recognize that taking care of ourselves and loved ones or taking care of our health are some of the highest forms of worship in and of themselves. We just need to make the intention and internally shift our perspectives.
Give yourself five minutes, just you and Allah SWT. Sit and raise your hands and share what’s in your heart with Him in your own words, even though He is well aware of it. Allow the burden of your frustration with yourself to be lifted off your shoulders and into His Hands.
“Oh Allah, I feel distant from you and it hurts especially because it’s Ramadan and I want to feel close to You in this month. Please, accept all my sacrifices for Your Sake and let me taste the sweetness of our relationship together through what I’m doing. As much as I wish I could be in the masjid and concentrate when reading Qur’an like I used to do to get that Imaan high, I can’t. But I’m doing whatever I can to fulfil the responsibilities you’ve given me in this phase of my life. So please, write me amongst the highest in Paradise, pour barakah into my life and let me taste the sweetness of my relationship with You through what I’m doing.”
Then, just keep renewing your intention. Remember, even the mundane (brushing your teeth) can be worship with your intention. And try to increase your dhikr just a little bit when you’re walking to your car or washing the dishes or going to sleep.
The beauty of Islam is that it doesn’t restrict worshipping God to praying, fasting and reading Qur’an. It can encompass your daily actions simply through your intention.
As Abdullah ibn Mubarak said: “Perhaps a great deed is belittled by an intention. And perhaps a small deed, by a sincere intention, is made great.”
This Ramadan, make your worship something transformational. Choose to understand your relationship with Allah SWT as one which will continue even when your life changes. Choose to magnify your intention.